Stew then said something that has stuck with me. "It's amazing the complete trust animals have that you will never hurt them," he said, to which I added, "Yep, I guess that's what you call unconditional love."
That brief exchange now echoes in my head, as old age and a failing body are rapidly catching up with Paco, forcing us to think just when our most loving decision might be to end his life or "put him to sleep" as that tired euphemism goes.
Paco has long been a loyal but demanding friend. We found him at the Chicago animal shelter one afternoon, sitting forlornly in a cage apart from the other cats which were wiggling in theirs, trying to catch the eye of any potential adopter.
Paco immediately caught our attention because it was Halloween, and he had beautiful long fur and was completely black, except for his green eyes and white whiskers. We'd heard that on Halloween black cats in some parts of the city were tortured or killed by kids because they were considered bringers bad luck, or just for the hell of it.
|Paco sitting on the mantle of the fireplace of |
one of our first homes in San Miguel.
Not too long after we took him home, though, we realized that Paco was in fact damaged goods and that it had nothing to do with Halloween. The cage he was in was reserved for animals that had been adopted but then returned to the pound.
Paco's defect was not insignificant when you live in the confines of an urban dwelling. It consisted in not peeing inside the litter box regularly. In fact his batting average was about sixty percent. It's gotten worse with old age.
He doesn't pee in some remote corner of the house but in close proximity of the litter box, as if he meant well but, by golly, just couldn't aim so good.
Returning him to the pound a second time, when he surely would be euthanized, was not an option. Instead we consulted vets and books, tried different types of cat litter and litter pans, even bought a covered pan in case Paco's problem was the feline equivalent of pee-shyness in men.
Nothing worked and over the years we just put newspapers around the box that we would change whenever we cleaned or changed the litter.
Animals being totally unself-conscious beings, Paco never caught on that there was anything wrong, except possibly that his litter options inexplicably, and annoyingly, kept changing.
Today, his problems are much worse. His digestive system is incurably on the fritz, likely liver failure. He eats large amounts of food that go through his scrawny body with no visible result, except constant diarrhea. His formerly luxuriant fur is now stringy and knotty though he still makes an attempt to groom himself.
A few weeks ago we took him to Dr. Vazquez, a gentle and experienced vet, who described Paco's terminal condition and suggested we consider Paco's deteriorating "quality of life" and when to terminate it. Not yet, we said, and took Paco home.
We've had to make such decisions before with other pets and they were painful but obvious. The animal couldn't eat or walk or sustain any serious pretense of living.
Paco, visibly frail as he is, is not giving us such an easy out.
He sleeps most of the time, as cats usually do, but maintains a strict schedule the highlight of which is marching to the kitchen a couple of times a day to demand a piece of sliced ham, a late habit Stew has created and encouraged, and which Paco laboriously accomplishes with the few teeth he has left.
It has to be San Rafael pork ham, sliced very thin. None of that cheap turkey ham or leftover crap.
After his ham break, Paco might go out on the terrace for a brief walk-about, after which he'll return to the bedroom closet for a nap until the next food break, perhaps stopping by the litter box for yet one more attempt to hit the target.
And every day when I see Paco ambling about I remember Dr. Vazquez's advice and a wonder when we "should put him out of his misery," to use another hackneyed euphemism.
But then at night Paco climbs on Stew's chest for his usual routine and goes to sleep at the foot of his bed when he's had enough, and I say no, not yet.
That nightly routine is a daily reminder of his unfailing trust that we wouldn't do anything to harm him. That certainly includes not ending his life, not before it's time.